“Being a mom, and an experienced, certified teacher, I feel qualified to help others with their children”
Less stress - more smiles!
Think of me as a neutral, 3rd party friend who helps you identify goals for your family, establish new routines and achieve positive change! I will help you strategize a game plan and then hold you accountable to stick to it! It’s time to feel good about your decisions and move confidently forward with your family’s goals and relationships.
What is Family Coaching?
Family coaching is a process where one or more members of a family works with a coach to address goals that will improve their family dynamics. A family coach helps to strengthen the relationships between family members and improve how the family functions as a whole. Family members need to be able to discuss their shared values, beliefs and goals and see where they are aligned and where they may be out of sync. Family coaching helps parents understand the impacts of their behaviors on their children.
Job of the Family Coach
Family Coaching requires a deep understanding of the relationship between family members. In order for family coaches to be successful, they need to be good listeners and advocate for each family member. Empathizing with parental struggles and understanding the difficulties at children’s various developmental stages is key. Promoting continuous and trusted communication between family members is of upmost importance.
How I will help
Families need rules and guidelines in order to run smoothly. I am here to help parents stand united, creating appropriate, workable rules for themselves and their children and strategize ways to stay on track and enforce the “laws” with confidence.
Having been a teacher for almost 20 years, I have a no-nonsense approach when dealing with children and create very definite and attainable boundaries for them to adhere to. The life of a child should be fun and wonderful, but children also need our help to learn things like patience, positivity and confidence and how to handle things like disappointment, anger and frustration.
“I will listen to your unique situation with open ears, a caring heart and a non-judgmental mind.”
My Role
I will help you set boundaries that are attainable for your children and for you!
I will help teach you how to be less emotional when disciplining.
I will help you work with your spouse or other caretakers so everyone is using the same tactics.
My Strategy
Working with children and their parents has taught me that although no situation is exactly the same, many of the same strategies work across the board for families.
I will give you my undivided attention while you tell me about your situation and then give you my opinions and advice on how to move forward. Whether it’s how to get your kids to eat properly, go to bed, stop arguing, be independent, clean their rooms, do their homework, etc, I have ideas that work!
"I love working as a family coach because I am passionate about helping others, and believe the importance of a successful life begins with the family unit.”
My views on discipline
Kids are happier knowing and following the rules. They are looking for boundaries and it is the parent’s job to set them. Children feel safe with rules and don’t like when they change frequently. That is why it’s important to be consistent and on the same page as your spouse or other caregivers of your child. Disciplining is part of raising children, and kids need to know there are consequences when rules are broken.
Some adults haven’t spent much time with children until they have their own. They want to be friends with their children and are uncomfortable when their kids aren’t happy. Remember, our job as a parent is not to be our child’s friend….they have friends! Our job is to help them grow into responsible, caring, and productive human beings. Sometimes children will be unhappy when learning things like patience, respect and responsibility.
“I decided to reach a larger platform by starting a business, website and youtube channel to spread my knowledge and ideas. I can teach others what I know and help their families run more smoothly. I truly enjoy helping others and think this is the best way for me to give back. “
What’s my technique?
Sometimes I help parents to have the confidence to enforce the rules that they already have in place. Other times, I work with families to set their goals and establish new routines.
Children will do what’s expected of them and also need to know their boundaries. Children will rise to the occasion; we just need to give them opportunities that are appropriate for them. So it’s up to parents to have high, specific expectations for their children and then follow through and be consistent. First and foremost, treat children with respect and expect the same in return.
I really want to help parents have fun with their children and enjoy the process. Childhood flies by, so let’s make the most of it!
Rachelle Dell, Family Coach and Educator
